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vivalospunks:

dysphorism:

DO YOU EVER JUST

GET JEALOUS SO EASILY

LIKE NO 

THAT PERSON IS MINE

DON’T BREATHE AROUND THEM PLEASE AND THANK YOU

This has been happening recently, ep me

Link 28 Aug 169 notes Clatter and Clank: You know what I'm noticing about the recent onslaught of radical feminists? Most of them are white.»

ineffable-she:

clatterandclank:

I think their whiteness and their womanhood is intersecting to produce a particularly obnoxious response to patriarchy and marginalization. I’ve been thinking a lot about this.

So, Aida Hurtado and Audre Lorde both talk about this. And they are way more articulate than I am, so I’m not in any way reinventing the wheel. Both of them make the argument that white women and women of color hold different relational positions to white men, who are the gatekeepers of privilege, resources, opportunity, etc. White women’s position to white men is that they are groomed to be coddled lovers - it’s one of seduction, a promise of spill-over privilege. Women of color are raised to be something else again and are rejected as visible lovers of white men.

The effects of this phenomenon are pretty broad, I think. We can see how this impacts constructions of femininity, beauty, motherhood. It explains the historical distrust of feminists of color towards white feminists. And I think it explains some things about the white feminists who are transphobic binarist radical assholes, too.

One thing I keep hearing over and over from these radical feminists is that trans* folks are just godawful because they are trying to take over women’s spaces. “Why can’t we just have one thing to ourselves?!” is a really common thread here. What I hear when a radfem says this is the following:

Look, I don’t want to share my victimization at the hands of patriarchy with anyone else. I can’t believe you trans* people have the audacity to come in here and try to be included in conversations that are clearly about me and my experiences and how I’ve been marginalized. I am scared that by including you on the fringes of a conversation that is already centered on me that white men will not listen to me anymore and nothing will change for me - but I do believe that white men will compromise with me if they just knew how victimized I am.

And I think this response - this feeling of entitled victimhood and a belief in the power of proclaiming victimhood - is related to the benevolent sexism encoded in white women’s positionality as seduced by white men’s privilege. White women are controlled by being ‘rescued’ by white men over and over - and sometimes they are actually protected. The lines between help and harm, affection and subordination get really blurry until white women are pretty much socialized to think that

a) their voices are heard and cared about by those in structural positions of power, which is probably why white middle class feminists really fucking believe hardcore in electoral politics, and

b) that there is bargaining power in expressing victimhood. And there is for them, because they are coddled and seduced and protected from the big scary world. But it doesn’t work that way for women of color at all.

I think these two lines of thought explain why white radfems get so viciously angry towards trans* people. Defining womanhood as something outside of a binarist biological deterministic framework scares them because the fact of their skin-deep whiteness and femaleness has given them a lot of protections and a close proximity to powerholders. Defining womanhood in a fuzzier more inclusive way threatens their positionality with white men. Hence thereal womanbullshit and the accusations that trans women are really just dudes trying to take over women’s spaces.

The other big thing here, and I think this is where the shit really hits the fan, is that because they are white women, these folksfeel entitled to have their own spacesbecause historically white women have been allowed to have spaces of their own by white men.Women of color have not. But white women have had parlors and sewing circles and shit like that. So there is an expectation that there is and should be something unique and special set aside for white women and a total refusal to question that assumption or locate it in a context of racial subordination.

The bottom line for me is that the spate of radfem awfulness is very much linked to white perceptions of what it is to be a victim - that you have moral high ground that will be respected, that you are allowed a space to heal and recover, that people will listen to you if you speak to your experiences. People of color have been victimized in more violent, more blatantly oppressive ways and have learned that for them none of that is true. For me, this radfem response to the perceived “trans* invasions” of their spaces is an example of an unchecked and very specific form of white privilege embodied by (typically middle class) white women.

(note: I am white, and though I am genderqueer and fall under the trans* umbrella I am DFAB and have been read as and treated as a white woman fro most of my life)

this is an excellent and coherent analysis - one of the first i’ve read on tumblr which actually addresses how various forms of marginalization intersect.

it’s essential to note how space policing like such is often enacted subconsciously…not that intent necessarily makes any difference, but it does change how all of this stuff operates. many white women flat out don’t understand their racialized entitlement towards safe, separate spaces; they have been traumatized at the hands of white male protectors & cannot possibly begin wrap their heads around the bargaining power of articulating victimhood. trauma produces tunnel vision…. this does not excuse privilege denial or the perpetuation of horizontal oppressions, but it’s important to note because it impacts what strategies are and are not successful when it comes to guiding folks through the learning / unlearning process

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Teacher: sit down
Me: drank

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Link 28 Aug 26 notes http://congenitalprogramming.tumblr.com/post/95964933112/daniphantomgone»

congenitalprogramming:

southernblackwomynhood:

congenitalprogramming:

southernblackwomynhood:

daniphantomgone:

congenitalprogramming:

The first image was correct because then there’s the issue of getting women in the mood. It’s generally much easier to…

Pretty much the only time you…

That ‘Fuck boy’ is my boyfriend, and he is an adult male, and you will address him as such - regardless of your uninformed opinion of his sexual prowess - or you will have to fuck with ME. Don’t fucking insult him because you disagree with a goddamn point he made.

Also, the fact that women with vaginas are more difficult to please sexually RELATIVE TO PEOPLE WITH PENISES is pretty damn complex what with women’s desires tending to be more closely connected to mood and social status and shit on top of the machinery.

I have a vagina, too…for me, the movements are very specific and I do not demand that a guy catch on quickly or easily - especially because I’m not the one who has been taught that my gender identity/maturity is dependent upon being able to make a girl come hard/quickly/skillfully enough and if I fail, random women on the internet will to try and humiliate me.

You disagree…cool. But come correct or don’t bother to get up.

Nah chica because first of all: There isn’t shit you can do other than discuss or not discuss, you can unfollow and you can ignore me and go on about you day but my opinion stays.

Second of all this shit isn’t coming from nowhere. Your dude has a habit of coming out of nowhere with some extra ass comments, reducing a situation horribly, then backpedaling saying he’s in a funny mood or he actually doesn’t know about xyz. 

Third of all if you must know I too am of the mind that sexual responsiveness is complicated. But the fact of the matter is bruh bruh got all putupon at a damn image retort on a post comparing the attianability of the female orgasm to a rubik’s cube, while the male orgasm was a Bop-It.

So if you want to support the idea that women are just oo damn complicated to please and therefore we should all laugh and point at women’s confusing puzzle vaginas and dismiss women if they complain to their partner or try to get better sex because LOL WHATEVER LADY I NEED A MAP TO NAVIGATE THAT COMPLICATED THING then go on ahead. But that’s what this is about. 

I for one and fucking tired of seeing my genitals compared to maps, traps, puzzles, math problems, so on and so forth. I’m tired of that trope being used to excuse men from trying to please their partner, or learning what they like because LOL TOO HARD ANYWAY AMIRITE. But if you like that, fucking fine. Have fun.

Hold up.

Whoever the hell is saying that just because a thing is generally objectively more difficult than another, it’s THE MOST DIFFICULT THING EVAR and they shouldn’t be expected to try at all is stupid. Fucking stupid and selfish.

This person was not daniphantomgone in this instance.

You’ve taken a casual critique of the idea that the female orgasm/arousal is relatively did difficult compared to the male one, and experienced it as a shrill insistence that the female anatomy is to blame for a lazy partner.

Then you brought the hype in by being nasty and insulting to his imaginary blaming… and reinforced the very things that gives guy’s incentive to blame - if they display lack of knowledge about sexual matters, they will be humiliated.

I think you response would be warranted in another situation, but not this one.

HOWEVER…you mentioned that dani has reblogged from you before. I know nothing of this, so my opinion could be uninformed. If something happens again, let me know I guess, for context. He’s my baby but don’t ever get the impression that we agree on everything.

Then you brought the hype in by being nasty and insulting to his imaginary blaming… and reinforced the very things that gives guy’s incentive to blame - if they display lack of knowledge about sexual matters, they will be humiliated.”

False. I hate masculinism as much as the next rational person. I never insinuated that men should be fantastic at sex, I flat out said multiple times that the issue with treating women’s orgasms like unknowable esoteric puzzles is that women can COMMUNICATE and the idea that it’s just super hard to please us inherently overlooks that fact. So yes,I will humiliate someone for presenting as a non-empathetic sexual partner, novice or no.

Lastly, I’m not going to ‘let you know’ for context. What is this ‘it takes a village?’ Who do you think either of you are to me that out of all y followers I’m gonna keep tabs of this shit so I can run to you and help you educate him? Get real. He’s your dude, you deal with him. Like I said before I’m tired of him only ever having some shit to say when it’s to the tune of a defensive male ego (but his ass is silent on my posts otherwise which is why it’s pretty clear it’s defensiveness), and I’m putting him on ignore.

I’m done, and I’ll forget about you both pretty soon. Ciao.

He was oddly important enough to talk to/keep tabs on thus far. Forgive me for thinking you were actually concerned about his politics instead of using your previous shared history as a talking point to legitimize your harpy-like tone. I sincerely apologize.

Agreed. Keep your toxicity at bay and I’ll mind my own l.

Link 28 Aug 26 notes http://congenitalprogramming.tumblr.com/post/95964933112/daniphantomgone»

congenitalprogramming:

southernblackwomynhood:

daniphantomgone:

congenitalprogramming:

The first image was correct because then there’s the issue of getting women in the mood. It’s generally much easier to…

Pretty much the only time you…

That ‘Fuck boy’ is my boyfriend, and he is an adult male, and you will address him as such - regardless of your uninformed opinion of his sexual prowess - or you will have to fuck with ME. Don’t fucking insult him because you disagree with a goddamn point he made.

Also, the fact that women with vaginas are more difficult to please sexually RELATIVE TO PEOPLE WITH PENISES is pretty damn complex what with women’s desires tending to be more closely connected to mood and social status and shit on top of the machinery.

I have a vagina, too…for me, the movements are very specific and I do not demand that a guy catch on quickly or easily - especially because I’m not the one who has been taught that my gender identity/maturity is dependent upon being able to make a girl come hard/quickly/skillfully enough and if I fail, random women on the internet will to try and humiliate me.

You disagree…cool. But come correct or don’t bother to get up.

Nah chica because first of all: There isn’t shit you can do other than discuss or not discuss, you can unfollow and you can ignore me and go on about you day but my opinion stays.

Second of all this shit isn’t coming from nowhere. Your dude has a habit of coming out of nowhere with some extra ass comments, reducing a situation horribly, then backpedaling saying he’s in a funny mood or he actually doesn’t know about xyz. 

Third of all if you must know I too am of the mind that sexual responsiveness is complicated. But the fact of the matter is bruh bruh got all putupon at a damn image retort on a post comparing the attianability of the female orgasm to a rubik’s cube, while the male orgasm was a Bop-It.

So if you want to support the idea that women are just oo damn complicated to please and therefore we should all laugh and point at women’s confusing puzzle vaginas and dismiss women if they complain to their partner or try to get better sex because LOL WHATEVER LADY I NEED A MAP TO NAVIGATE THAT COMPLICATED THING then go on ahead. But that’s what this is about. 

I for one and fucking tired of seeing my genitals compared to maps, traps, puzzles, math problems, so on and so forth. I’m tired of that trope being used to excuse men from trying to please their partner, or learning what they like because LOL TOO HARD ANYWAY AMIRITE. But if you like that, fucking fine. Have fun.

Hold up.

Whoever the hell is saying that just because a thing is generally objectively more difficult than another, it’s THE MOST DIFFICULT THING EVAR and they shouldn’t be expected to try at all is stupid. Fucking stupid and selfish.

This person was not daniphantomgone in this instance.

You’ve taken a casual critique of the idea that the female orgasm/arousal is relatively did difficult compared to the male one, and experienced it as a shrill insistence that the female anatomy is to blame for a lazy partner.

Then you brought the hype in by being nasty and insulting to his imaginary blaming… and reinforced the very things that gives guy’s incentive to blame - if they display lack of knowledge about sexual matters, they will be humiliated.

I think you response would be warranted in another situation, but not this one.

HOWEVER…you mentioned that dani has reblogged from you before. I know nothing of this, so my opinion could be uninformed. If something happens again, let me know I guess, for context. He’s my baby but don’t ever get the impression that we agree on everything.

Link 27 Aug 26 notes http://congenitalprogramming.tumblr.com/post/95964933112/daniphantomgone»

daniphantomgone:

congenitalprogramming:

The first image was correct because then there’s the issue of getting women in the mood. It’s generally much easier to…

Pretty much the only time you…

That ‘Fuck boy’ is my boyfriend, and he is an adult male, and you will address him as such - regardless of your uninformed opinion of his sexual prowess - or you will have to fuck with ME. Don’t fucking insult him because you disagree with a goddamn point he made.

Also, the fact that women with vaginas are more difficult to please sexually RELATIVE TO PEOPLE WITH PENISES is pretty damn complex what with women’s desires tending to be more closely connected to mood and social status and shit on top of the machinery.

I have a vagina, too…for me, the movements are very specific and I do not demand that a guy catch on quickly or easily - especially because I’m not the one who has been taught that my gender identity/maturity is dependent upon being able to make a girl come hard/quickly/skillfully enough and if I fail, random women on the internet will to try and humiliate me.

You disagree…cool. But come correct or don’t bother to get up.

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Bop it, Twist it, Pull it, Spin it, Flick it.


fixed it.

moonglade-poetess:

tastefullyoffensive:

Bop it, Twist it, Pull it, Spin it, Flick it.

fixed it.

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